Some years ago, the wife of an American President suffered the greatest humiliation any woman can publicly confront – her husband had had an affair, lied about it, got caught in the lie and she became, overnight, the object of pity.
Nothing is as devastating to any woman as learning that her husband is fooling around but I can only imagine how excruciatingly embarrassing the whole thing must have been for Hillary Clinton.
Any woman who’s been there knows what it feels like. To know that you’ve been made a fool out of is terrible but to know that other people know is unbearably humiliating.
To feel like everyone knows and to feel like they’re all laughing behind your back is mortifying enough – but think of a First Lady at the mercy of the media (especially one as liberal as the American one) and suffering the constant intrusive opinions of her society’s ‘freedom of expression’.
Everyone was saying whatever they wanted about her and talk-show hosts increased their ratings discussing Bill Clinton and Monica Lewinsky. And Monica Lewinsky was the most talked about woman in the world; willing to expose the whole gory affair to make a quick buck while Bill Clinton was lynched by the press and the public because he was regarded as a repeat offender while Hillary was the (constantly) wronged wife.
Comedians like Chris Rock had a field day making fun of her in his Bigger & Blacker show. I remember Chris Rock remarking that Hillary should have learned to be good in bed. He said that Hillary was to blame for her husband having an affair because she never bothered to give him oral sex.
My point is; Hillary Clinton became an object of pity to some, a source of amusement to others and the world’s most discussed topic overnight.
People speculated about whether she’d leave her husband; and every time she stepped out in public by his side – some people thought she was pathetic.
I don’t know what has become of Monica Lewinsky except for the string of projects she started that all kind of flopped because of her notoriety at least according to online reports on the Lewinsky Scandal.
But this article is not about Monica Lewinsky it is about the other woman. It is about Hillary Clinton and what became of her.
She survived the scandal of a husband who made a fool of her; she survived the gossip, the taunts, the shame, the humiliation and the embarrassment of it all. She survived the headlines, the sensationalism, the tabloids, the talk and the cruel insensitivity with which the matter was handled by the rest of the world.
She survived and she did her best to protect her daughter from the worst of the blow-back.
Today Hillary Clinton is one of the most powerful women in the world; and Monica is the woman who’ll only be remembered for getting on her knees to give a blowjob to a former US President and by her own admission observed, "I'm well-known for something that isn't great to be well-known for."
Wherever she is – I wager that she doesn’t hold a candle to Hillary Clinton and that if I ever had to choose the fate of either of these women – I would rather be Hillary.
I’ll tell you why.
You can never control another person’s actions – including your spouse – but you always get to decide how to react.
You can never stop someone else from sleeping with anyone they choose to – even if the person they decide to start sleeping with happens to be your husband.
Calling the mistress names, stabbing her, insulting and fighting with her is not going to make her stop sleeping with your husband (especially if she’s thoroughly enjoying it!).
Feeling sorry for yourself, drinking pills, and attempting suicide and generally giving up on your life just because someone has decided to sleep around is really dumb.
If you really want to get even with the woman who’s ‘stolen’ your husband – you should really try making a raving success of your life; I’m told that is the greatest revenge.
The truth is you will not be able to control what your husband does or who he chooses to do it with and the truth is also that you cannot stop the other woman from sleeping with him, from wanting him and from enjoying having sex with him.
You’re absolutely powerless to influence what anyone else does – accept it.
But you have the power to live your own life; to chase your own dreams and reach for the stars.
You can become the best of the best.
You can survive.
You can get through whatever pain and anguish you’re suffering.
You can grow stronger; you can learn also to be happy all by yourself.
You can live, laugh, sing, dance and celebrate life.
You can pick up the pieces and change the narrative of your life.
You can be whoever and whatever you wish to be.
Your future depends on many things, but mostly on you.
So forget the ‘Monicas’ of this world and don’t give them the satisfaction of making you become a quitter and a failure in life.
No one should have that much power over your life – not a cheating husband and certainly not the woman who’s sleeping with him.
Parting shot: Anything may be betrayed, anyone may be forgiven, but not those who lack the courage of their own greatness. ~ Ayn Rand
As a rule the person found out in a betrayal of love holds, all the same, the superior position of the two. It is the betrayed one who is humiliated. – ADA LEVERSON, Love’s Shadow