There is nothing as disempowering as indecision. When you’re undecided about anything you’re stagnant and in a state of paralysis until you figure out what you want to do, where you want to go and how you want to get there.
It should be the easiest thing to know what we want but sometimes what we want might be so lofty that we are afraid to admit it to ourselves, let alone others. The funny thing is that sometimes the only way to identify what your dream is – is to identify the one thing you desire that you’re too scared to tell anyone about.
Our dreams scare us because they seem so unattainable at first and they seem so improbable that we don’t share them with anyone else to avoid looking or feeling foolish.
We are all afraid of making the wrong choices, having regrets in the future and of going down the wrong path. So decision-making is at the core of our aspirations but to make those decisions we must be able to admit to ourselves (if no one else) what it is we truly really want deep, deep down in our hearts.
Sometimes we do know what we want but we lie to ourselves and pretend that we want something different because we know that what we truly want would require sacrifices of us that we’re unwilling to make.
Sacrifices are painful to make and decisions are hard to make because they entail making admissions to ourselves and to other people about what we really want. Most of us end up making the easy choice of doing what we’re expected to do even when it conflicts with what we truly desire.
Decisions often get tougher when something important to you is at stake…. The more it matters to you, the harder the decision becomes because the things we care about are the ones we are reluctant to compromise on.
Yet in many cases we choose to cave in, to compromise and to choose the path that seems easiest because we are scared of making the wrong choice. We wonder, – what if we follow the dream and it’s a dead end? Wouldn’t it have been better to just follow the crowd so that even if our lives turn out badly, we can find anonymity in numbers?
Well time flies…. It flies while we’re failing to make up our minds and decide what we want.
Time flies when you make a sacrifice…take the leap and chase your goal…. It flies when you sit around, wringing your hands in despair wondering what you’re going to do.
Time flies…. We can’t change that. But we get to decide what we’ll be doing with ourselves while the clock ticks away. It takes courage to make a decision and stick with it… don’t let time pass you by while you wallow in indecision.